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| November 15, 2008 update
"I think, therefore I support Barack Obama." me
FABULOUS NEWS: OBAM A WON!! Change has come to America! Thanks to everyone who worked or volunteered for his campaign and other progressive candidates and causes. I did my part by donating money, registering people at the park to vote, making sure they requested absentee ballots and then mailed them in on time, etc. Maybe we'll get our equal civil rights with Obama in the White House and larger Democratic and pro-equality majorities in Congress, starting with passing ENDA and the Matthew Shepard At, then repealing DOMA and "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." Then, maybe the Supreme Court will rule in favor of same-sex marriage rights like some state Supreme Courts have done.
Here's my cyber-chant for equal rights: "Gay, straight, black, white, marriage is a civil right!"
Humor quote I read: "If people are against gays having sex, let them get married. That will put a stop to it."
On a personal note, I recently met 2 younger gay guys from California who worked here in Yellowstone over the summer, and they gave me the courage to finally come out to my Catholic church-going parents, who live in central Illinois. I have heard over the years that GLBT people need to come out in order for us to achieve full equality from the majority straight society, and the passage of Prop in California of all states gives me an even bigger reason to come out. I plan on coming out and also refusing to attend our usual Catholic Christmas mass on Dec. 24 as protest of the Catholic Church's support of Prop 8 and many other anti-gay ballot measures, laws, and politicians across the country. I long ago stopped believing in the brainwashing I got as a child of Catholic elementary school (and as an altar boy at church) and as a young man in Catholic high school, so it's about (or long past) time I told my parents who I am and what I believe and don't believe in.
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I am a hopeless romantic and idealist. I want to get married, sooner rather than later. I do not want kids, just a dog or 2. All modesty aside, I'm a classy, quality guy. Not on here for quickies or hookups. So many gay guys spend so much time and effort trying to find their next hookup. For what? A few minutes of "fun" and then you're done? Is casual sex WAY overrated, or is it just me? People think gays are just interested in sex. I could live without sex, and pretty much do, as I'm the only gay guy within miles.
I am not into just "hooking up" or having a fling, not that I haven't done that a few times. I'm a serious relationship kind of guy. I never learned the ways of hooking up. Guys have sometimes expressed interest in me, and sometimes I picked up on it and expressed interest back, but sometimes, if a guy was subtle and wasn't direct, I wouldn't have a clue he was interested. Then I think back, was he making a pass or expressing interest? Sometimes I am clueless and don't translate something a guy did as making a pass. I need to enroll in Flirting 101 to understand how to recognize flirting. Sometimes I can't tell, and I'm too shy and reserved to inquire. I'm more of a passive person, needing the other guy to be the active aggressor who seeks out and makes the first direct move. |
| | | kfranken describes himself as Easygoing, Romantic and Warm hearted. His outlook on life is Idealistic, Independent and Optimistic and his age preference is his All Ages. He likes to hang out with Intellectuals, Classy people or Creative people and he enjoys eating Italian and Health foods food. He prefers to listen to Easy listening, Dance/disco and Modern music. His main hobbies include Tv/movies, Outdoors and Computers and his favourite sports are Tennis, Hiking and Walking. |
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| Age:
33 |
| Astrology sign:
Leo |
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Wyoming, USA |
| City/Town:
Mammoth |
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Find a partner |
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5'8" (172cm) |
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Blue |
| Hair color:
Brown |
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Average |
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Cut |
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Never |
| Drinking:
Never |
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Single |
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Versatile |
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Post-Graduate |
| Body Hair:
Some |
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Yes |
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No Plans more info
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Middle Aged |
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Aged between :18 - 99 |
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Smoker :Never |
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4'0" (122cm) -
7'7" (230cm) |
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Ideal match :full SD profile as of 112308
November 15, 2008 update
"I think, therefore I support Barack Obama." me
FABULOUS NEWS: OBAM A WON!! Change has come to America! Thanks to everyone who worked or volunteered for his campaign and other progressive candidates and causes. I did my part by donating money, registering people at the park to vote, making sure they requested absentee ballots and then mailed them in on time, etc. Maybe we'll get our equal civil rights with Obama in the White House and larger Democratic and pro-equality majorities in Congress, starting with passing ENDA and the Matthew Shepard At, then repealing DOMA and "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." Then, maybe the Supreme Court will rule in favor of same-sex marriage rights like some state Supreme Courts have done.
BAD NEWS: PROPOSITION 8 (aka Proposition Hate) passed in California. How depressing!
The Mormon Church (based in Utah) raised 19 million dollars(!) to pass Proposition 8, banning same-sex marriage in the state of California. They used their money to make despicable, dishonest, and hateful TV ads that scared voters into voting to write discrimination in the state constitution. They are trying to impose their religious beliefs on others.
The Mormon Church violated laws governing the church's tax-exempt status by involving itself financially in a political battle. We need to separate church and hate. If churches promote and financially lobby for hatred and discrimination, they should lose their tax-exempt status. If you agree, go to
http://www.mormonsstoleourrights.com/#petition
and add your name to the petition.
Also, boycott the state of Utah! The state's government and businesses supported Prop 8. Go skiing in Colorado instead!
Remember the words of Martin Niemoller: "First they came for the Communists but I was not a Communist so I did not speak out. Then they came for the Socialists and the Trade Unionists, but I was not one of them, so I did not speak out. Then they came for the Jews but I was not Jewish, so I did not speak out. And when they came for me, there was no one left to speak out for me."
If gays can be voted out of the Constitution, which minority group is next? If Prop 8 is allowed to stay in the California Constitution, it sets a very bad precedent.
The basic, fundamental civil rights of people cannot be taken away by a simple majority of voters. Gay people are people, and we have a basic human right to equal rights that cannot be voted away by people who don't like us, wish we weren't here, think we're going to hell, want us to repent and pray, etc. You cannot take away basic, civil, constitutional, human, and equal rights from people by majority vote. This isn't a popularity contest. Human and equal rights are not a popularity contest.
I hope and trust the California Supreme Court has the courage and wisdom to invalidate Prop 8. The pro-equality forces have a powerful and persuasive legal arguments in favor on invalidating Prop 8. The questions are 1. whether Prop 8 was a "revision" of the California Constitution or whether it was an "amendment" and 2.whether the California Constitution can have conflicting provisions: one calling for equal protection and recognizing a fundamental right to marry the person of one's choice vs. Prop 8 saying no gay marriage.
page 18 of the plaintiff's petition to the California Supreme Court challenging Prop 8. "But the decisions in this Court's other cases provide helpful guidance by focusing the relevant inquiry on whether an initiative would contradict "a preexisting fundamental principle of constitutional jurisprudence" in a manner that "substantially alters the preexisting constitutional scheme." (Raven, supra, at p. 354.) Based on that standard, it is apparent that, by effectively eliminating the courts' ability to enforce the guarantee of equal protection for gay and lesbian persons with respect to the fundamental right to marry, Proposition 8 substantially alters our constitutional scheme and thus may not be enacted through the initiative process."
"substantially alters the preexisting constitutional scheme." is the line I like the best, and it is contrary to that "priority principle" we discussed in class back in Spring 2004 and which you mentioned in your previous email. I don't agree with that priority principle, i.e. that the most recent constitutional amendment trumps any previous interpretation of the constitution. In my mind, the previous interpretation would trump a new one simply because the previous/original interpretation has survived and been accepted by countless courts for over 100 years (not that long-held interpretations can't change over time, which they can, but in this case of equal protection, it's a no-brainer: equal protection means equal protection. Prop 8 proponents would need to revise or repeal equal protection to make Prop 8 valid).
page 19. "In Livermore, supra, 102 Cal. 113, this Court held that the "underlying principles" of the Constitution are meant to be of a "permanent and abiding nature." (Id. at pp. 118-1 19.) Accordingly, an "amendment implies such an addition or change within the lines of the original instrument as will effect an improvement, or better carry out the purpose for which it was framed." (Id. at p. 119.) In contrast, a revision substantially alters those underlying principles or makes "far reaching changes in the nature of our basic governmental plan." (Amador Valley, supra, 22 Cal.3d at p. 223.)"
page 21. "As the decisions of this Court reflect, the greater protections afforded by the revision process were designed by the people to serve an important gate-keeping function to protect the most fundamental constitutional precepts from being altered through hasty or intemperate action by a momentary political majority."
page 22. "The people's considered action in forging a critical distinction between revisions and amendments demonstrates that they share the conclusion of former Chief Justice Traynor, that if a Constitution "is to retain respect it must be free from popular whim and caprice which would
make of it a mere statute." (Roger Traynor, Amending the United States Constitution (1927) (unpublished Ph.D. thesis, University of California (Berkeley) [quoted in Rachel A. Van Cleave, A Constitution in Conflict: The Doctrine of Independent State Grounds And The Voter Initiative In California (1 993) 2 1 Hastings Const. L.Q. 95, 98, fn. 191.)"
page 32. "To the best of Petitioners' knowledge, by seeking to mandate government discrimination against a particular subset of citizens based on a suspect classification, Proposition 8 is unlike any other initiative that has been enacted or even considered by California voters since the initiative process was first adopted."
WOW! page 34. The petition cites Romer!
"As the United States Supreme Court observed in Romer v. Evans - a decision that struck down a provision of the Colorado Constitution enacted by initiative that sought to bar gay and lesbian people, but no one else, from the protection of anti-discrimination laws - "[it] is not within our
constitutional tradition to enact laws of this sort." (See Romer, supra, 5 17 U.S. at p. 633.) As the Court explained, "[respect for th[e] principle [of equal protection] explains why laws singling out a certain class of citizens for disfavored legal status or general hardships are rare." (Id. at p. 633.) Just as the provision struck down in Romer confounded "our constitutional tradition" and "the rule of law" (ibid.), so the attempted use of the initiative process in Proposition 8 to single out a certain class of Californians for disfavored treatment is fundamentally alien to the principle of equal protection and the structure of our constitutional scheme."
This is a slam dunk! All the CA Supreme Court needs to do is cite Romer in its invalidation of Prop 8, the religious fundies appeal to the SCOTUS, and we get the 5-4 ruling in favor of same-sex marriage, wiping out the 30 or so states with either laws or constitutional amendments banning gay marriage. Now, the CA Supreme Court could choose to NOT cite Romer, wanting to invalidate Prop 8 on just CA state constitutional grounds, but for cover, they could cite Romer, perhaps making this a federal appeals issue? Whether the SCOTUS would even accept the case is an open question.
Then again, should the CA SC rule Prop 8 was valid, the pro-equality side would be almost forced to appeal to the federal courts on equal protection grounds. I can't imagine them letting such an egregious ruling stand. They'd have to force the issue, I think.
page 35. "In Livermore, supra, this Court pointedly juxtaposed the "underlying principles" of the Constitution that are meant to be of a "permanent and abiding nature" with a mere "amendment" which "implies . . . an addition or change within the lines of the original instrument as will effect an improvement, or better carry out the purpose for which it was framed." (102 Cal. at pp. 118-1 19, italics added.) Nothing about Proposition 8 can fairly be said to be an addition or change "within the lines" of our existing Constitution or consistent with the purpose for which the inalienable guarantees of equal protection in Article I were framed. Rather, by deliberately stripping lesbian and gay people of a fundamental right, Proposition 8 cuts directly at the very notion of equal personhood, and the corresponding entitlement to be treated "as an equal, fully participating . . . member of society," that constitute the most bedrock foundation of our
Constitution. (See Ramirez, supra, 25 Cal.3d at p. 267.) Changes to such bedrock foundational principles can be made, if at all, only through the revision process, and not by amendment."
pages 36 - 37. "Just as the right to equal protection unquestionably is among the most fundamental underlying principles of the California Constitution, the courts' authority to interpret and apply the guarantee of equal protection is a core judicial function that plays a central role in the system of checks and balances mandated by the separation of powers doctrine. (E.g., Cal. Const., art. 111, 8 3.) As Justice Kennard has noted: "There is a reason why the words 'Equal Justice Under Law' are inscribed above the entrance to the courthouse of the United States Supreme Court. Both the federal and the state Constitutions guarantee to all the 'equal protection of the laws' . . . , and it is the particular responsibility of the judiciary to enforce those guarantees." (Marriage Cases, supra, at pp. 859-860 (conc. opn. of Kennard, J.).) Discharging that obligation is a court's "gravest and most important responsibility under our constitutional form of government." (Ibid. )"
"Within our state constitutional scheme, the importance of the courts' role as the ultimate arbiter of equal protection in our constitutional system cannot be overstated. As Justice Kennard further explained: The architects of our federal and state Constitutions understood that widespread and deeply rooted prejudices may lead majoritarian institutions to deny fundamental freedoms to unpopular minority groups, and that the most effective remedy for this form of oppression is an independent judiciary charged with the solemn responsibility to interpret and enforce the constitutional provisions guaranteeing fundamental freedoms and equal protection. (Ibid.)"
page 37. "Without the courts' authority to interpret and apply the guarantee of equal protection to prevent majorities from encroaching on minority rights, there is a danger that entrenched patterns of historical discrimination would become fixed, and disfavored groups would be relegated to a permanent or semi-permanent position of "second class citizenship." (Sail'er Inn, supra, 5 Cal.3d at p. 19.) Such a result would be fundamentally antithetical to our basic governmental plan. As Justice Harlan long ago noted of the federal Constitution, the California Constitution "neither knows nor tolerates classes among citizens." (Plessy v. Ferguson (1896) 163 U.S. 537, 559 (diss. op. of Harlan, J.) The courts' role in enforcing that prohibition is paramount."
Overall, I think this case is pretty simple. On narrow grounds, Prop 8 is/was a revision of the state constitution and is invalid as an amendment. Proponents can try again using the revision process (good luck!). On broader grounds, Prop 8 is also invalid on equal protection grounds of both the CA and federal constitutions: either no one can marry, or everyone can.
As Brian Normoyle wrote in an article on the Huffington Post at
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/brian-normoyle/prop-8-makes-wrong-kind-o_b_142879.html:
"In 1948, California led the nation by becoming the first state to strike down bans on interracial marriage. In the Perez v Sharp decision that found marriage to be a fundamental right, the state Supreme court stated "the right to marry is the right to join in marriage with the person of one's choice." Nearly 20 years later, the United States Supreme Court agreed that marriage was a "basic civil right" when it struck down anti-miscegenation laws all across the country.
The California Supreme Court would have to invalidate Prop 8 based on its 1948 Perez ruling, and on its May 2008 pro-same-sex marriage ruling. If the California Supreme Court doesn't invalidate Prop 8, the U.S. Supreme Court should take the case on federal equal protection (14th Amendment) grounds, and I think Justices Stevens, Kennedy, Suitor, Ginsburg, and Breyer will vote for same-sex marriage, as they all were in the majority in Romer v. Evans and Lawrence v. Texas.
The 14th Amendment in the US Constitution states:
"Section 1. All persons born or naturalized in the United States and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside. No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws."
Note: there is no "unless you're gay" exception to equal rights.
We shouldn't have to face these constitutional amendments every election year and spend millions of dollars trying to defeat them. We've lost every one, often by large margins (unlike California's Prop 8 narrow margin). That should show the courts that GLBT forces are politically powerless on their own to gain recognition of their/our basic civil rights. Enough is enough!
Here's my cyber-chant for equal rights: "Gay, straight, black, white, marriage is a civil right!"
Humor quote I read: "If people are against gays having sex, let them get married. That will put a stop to it."
On a personal note, I recently met 2 younger gay guys from California who worked here in Yellowstone over the summer, and they gave me the courage to finally come out to my Catholic church-going parents, who live in central Illinois. I have heard over the years that GLBT people need to come out in order for us to achieve full equality from the majority straight society, and the passage of Prop in California of all states gives me an even bigger reason to come out. I plan on coming out and also refusing to attend our usual Catholic Christmas mass on Dec. 24 as protest of the Catholic Church's support of Prop 8 and many other anti-gay ballot measures, laws, and politicians across the country. I long ago stopped believing in the brainwashing I got as a child of Catholic elementary school (and as an altar boy at church) and as a young man in Catholic high school, so it's about (or long past) time I told my parents who I am and what I believe and don't believe in.
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I am a hopeless romantic and idealist. I want to get married, sooner rather than later. I do not want kids, just a dog or 2. All modesty aside, I'm a classy, quality guy. Not on here for quickies or hookups. So many gay guys spend so much time and effort trying to find their next hookup. For what? A few minutes of "fun" and then you're done? Is casual sex WAY overrated, or is it just me? People think gays are just interested in sex. I could live without sex, and pretty much do, as I'm the only gay guy within miles.
I am not into just "hooking up" or having a fling, not that I haven't done that a few times. I'm a serious relationship kind of guy. I never learned the ways of hooking up. Guys have sometimes expressed interest in me, and sometimes I picked up on it and expressed interest back, but sometimes, if a guy was subtle and wasn't direct, I wouldn't have a clue he was interested. Then I think back, was he making a pass or expressing interest? Sometimes I am clueless and don't translate something a guy did as making a pass. I need to enroll in Flirting 101 to understand how to recognize flirting. Sometimes I can't tell, and I'm too shy and reserved to inquire. I'm more of a passive person, needing the other guy to be the active aggressor who seeks out and makes the first direct move.
I have been on SD since 2003 or so, and I have met a few good guys (and one REALLY good and very special quality guy - thanks Silverdaddies!), but many just lack personality, or are unreliable flakes, or are just too odd and strange (not that I don't have my own oddities and quirks). Where are all the "normal" gay guys, ones that I could take out to dinner or could introduce to friends and even parents and relatives? Ones that can carry their own in a conversation? Ones that don't talk about how many guys they've slept with, how many times they've been drunk or high, and what activities they have done while under the influence? Ones that don't have self-destructive personalities and tendencies? Why is it so hard to find quality gay guys?
Oh, what other free websites are out there for posting profiles like this? And I don't mean manhunt. Again, I'm a classy guy not out for hookups. Are there other websites that allow users to post a free profile? I'm on Yahoo Personals, too, but that site is not very good and doesn't allow non-paying/non-subscribers folks like me to send msgs other than ones that Yahoo has pre-written. Very lame.
We live in such a fast-paced, stressed-out society: go-go-go there, do-do-do this and that. I dislike the concrete jungle and rat race of cities. I took myself out of that society and came to work and live in national parks, where it is so laidback. I enjoy the slow pace, peace and quiet, clean air, beautiful scenery. I just love the mountains, hiking trails, wildlife, etc. A good friend has a picture that says: "If you live in the mountains, you're lucky enough." I have to agree. I'd be super-lucky and in Kevin heaven if I had Mr. Right with me here in the mountains of Yellowstone.
I live in a nice, but simple government housing-style efficiency apartment that is just a 5 minute walk from work. No long commutes for me. Yay! I save on gasoline that way, get to sleep in more and not waste time stuck in slow traffic. I pay only $160/month for rent, and I pay only electric for utilities ($15/month). All the other utilities are paid by the government, incl. water, heat, and trash. The apartment comes with a large storage unit in the basement and indoor garage stalls for parking your car in the winter months. I live in Wyoming, which has no state income tax, and I do my shopping in Montana, which has no state sales tax, so I have LOTS of money by getting the best of both states: no state income tax, and no state sales tax. Very nice! Car insurance is cheap in Wyoming, and I pay only $102 every 6 months! Cost of living is very low, so one can save money easily. In fact, people who live and work in national parks in remote areas such as Yellowstone make enough money and have so few living expenses that they often have a second home that they own outside the park.
Living in the Yellowstone is very nice - it's very safe; we don't have violent crime. You don't even have to lock your door at night. We have hundreds even thousands of miles of hiking trails, and you often can hike without seeing anyone else.
I'm looking for my soulmate, Mr. Right. Should Mr. Right come to Yellowstone, we could rent a nice ranch-style government house that's just a 10 minute walk from work. Renting government housing is very affordable (i.e., very inexpensive). Folks paying outrageous rents in cities and commuting miles and miles every day don't know what they are missing. Federal employees earn good wages/salaries and have great quality of work life.
There are a lot of perks to being a federal government employee. In this bad of an economy, gov't jobs offer good job security. You don't have to worry about losing your job, unlike in private employers. Federal employees get excellent health benefits (the same that the President and members of Congress get), good retirement benefits, flexible/health spending accounts, thrift savings plan, annual leave (8 hours/month for first 3 years, then more after), sick leave (8 hours/month, equaling 13 days/year), 10 paid holidays every year, and flexible work schedules, among many others. The biggest perk is being able to live and work in a national park, where most people come and visit on vacation, yet you live and work here all year long. When I was a Park Ranger, tourists would come up to me and ask where I lived. I'd tell them I lived down the road from the Visitor Center here in the park, and they were so envious. Other times, visitors would say to me: "You have the best job in the world!" I agreed, of course, because it's true.
Another perk is to be able to use your office computer and high-speed Internet after hours, on breaks, in evenings, and on weekends. So, one need not pay the $25/month or whatever on Internet access. There is a catch: sites such as SD, MySpace, and Facebook are blocked on government computers, so one needs to use one's personal computer for those sites, but the park has free wireless at public places, so that's nice. Or, some people buy high-speed Internet for their home, and many purchase satellite TV, as we don't get any local TV reception here. We do get 2 radio stations, though (NPR and a rock station, which isn't very good though).
Another perk of public service-type jobs like gov't jobs is that if you have student loans to pay back, if you work for the government for 10 years and pay your monthly loan payment on time for those 10 years, the gov't will forgive the balance of the loan after those 10 years of on-time payments. Wow!
Living and working in a remote park is not for everyone. I'm the only gay guy that I know of who works and lives here permanently, which means not much (actually not any!) gay social life (which means boring nights watching movies all alone, and celibacy!). I've almost forgotten how to be gay and do gay stuff! I did meet 2 other nice gay guys (a couple) here last summer. It was so nice to socialize with other gay men. Then, their jobs ended and they left in early September, so it's just me now. :(
I'm trying to get GLBT people and straight allies to apply for jobs in Yellowstone. There are a lot of different types of jobs here. I work for the National Park Service, so I am a federal employee. (I used to be a Park Ranger, and now I am a Planning Assistant.) Then there are several concession companies here who run the hotels/lodges, campgrounds, general stores, medical clinics, phone company, etc. Contact me if you'd like more info. about jobs in national parks. The park is very gay-friendly. There are several lesbians who work here, but as far as I know, I'm the only gay guy.
I am trying to start a social group for GLBT park employees. More employees are here in the summer, with some over winter, so I'll see how many I can get. If you or anyone is interested in working here at Yellowstone, let me know and I'll give you some tips.
Working at Yellowstone (or any big and famous national park) looks GREAT on your resume!! It's a dream job and a dream location for many people. Some people work here for just a summer, some for life.
I am interested in someone who follows, cares about, and is interested and active in progressive/Democratic politics, esp. GLBT equal rights and the environment. Someone who lives simply and who in progressive politics. No drama. I am attracted to someone who knows who they are and what they want out of life
Mr. Right must not smoke or be a Republican. I am not interested in smokers, drunks, losers, users, liars, leeches, moochers, Republicans or other self-destructive types.
I'm a simple and less-is-more kind of guy. I have no phone, other than my work/office phone (we have cell phone reception here, but I don't make or get many calls and can use my office phone for those). Once a month or so, I drive 85 miles to Bozeman, Montana, to do major grocery shopping. I LOVE browsing/shopping at secondhand/thrift stores for clothes. I don't cook; I eat simple canned foods (I LOVE Progresso and Campbell's soups!) and other foods that store well, etc. I'm very frugal.
If you send me a msg and you don't have a picture (G-rated pic preferred!), I'm not likely to reply. I don't do chat or cams. I prefer phone or email or in person.
So many gay guys are flakes - unreliable people who say one thing but do another, who don't follow through with commitments or responsibilities. I have good flake-dar. I can tell pretty quickly when someone is a flake - why are there so many gay flakes? Go many flakes out there, esp. younger gay guys, which is one reason I like older guys, although there are some older gay flakes, too.
I like stability, and so I like stable, mature, reliable, responsible men, and those men tend to be older. Age is just a number. Come to think of it, I've never ever been with a guy who was younger than me.
I've always loved the company and companionship of older gay men. I'm fine with guys my age as well, but too many are too often interested in sex, or drinking, or partying, and that's all. I like intellectual and philosophical and political discussions, not how drunk someone got last week or how many guys one has slept with.
I'm pretty vanilla (boring) and a shy, quiet and happy homebody. I am looking for a similar person OR someone to bring me out of my shell. I am kind of quiet and shy until I get to know someone.
I am a very giving person. As a child, I actually left money for the tooth fairy; come to think of it, my parents never did pay me back!
I was raised Catholic (I was an altar boy for several years). No, I wasn't abused/molested, although I don't appreciate the brainwashing that was forced onto me. The quality of education was very good, and I learned a lot and was a good student. But, I was a recovering Catholic for many years (and maybe I still am and always will be?), although I now consider myself to be an atheist. Really, if there was a God, wouldn't George W. Bush have been miscarried or aborted as a fetus? Seriously!
So many gay men engage in and fill their lives with empty, pointless, shallow relationships and activities. So many are materialistic, dysfunctional, and dishonest. Many are stuck in perpetual and permanent adolescence, filling their lives with pointless casual sex and drunkenness. Grow up already! I never even went through that phase of gay life, as I always have been more mature for my age and always respected myself and didn't act in ways that were slutty or common and popular in the gay scene, which I never fit in. I have standards. I don't befriend or associate or sleep with just anyone.
The gay community seems overly sexualized; it seems so sex-focused, if not sex-crazed. I disliked "Queer as Folk" because all it was was sex, sex, sex. So superficial and focused on sex, to the point of being hedonistic. I'm gay, and sex is not that big a part of my life, and that makes life so much more simple and less stressful. Anyway, I prefer intimacy to accompany sex.
There are a lot of lonely, unhappy gay men out there. There's seems to be this collective loneliness in the gay community. So many gay guys living in big cities with a large gay population are lonely and seeking out gay guys way out here in Wyoming. What's up with that? You'd think it'd be the other way around - the one gay guy in Wyoming seeking big city gay guys. Honestly, I'm happy here, but I'd of course be happier if there were other GLBT people here with whom I could socialize with and ideally have a long-term relationship with. It just seems I get msgs from lonely big city gay guys. It's just weird. They have so much more to choose from, yet they can't find what they want. That usually means there's something wrong with THEM, I've concluded, from experience.
I don't fit in with popular gay culture. I am not into the bar scene and never have liked bars (or the self-destructive types that tend to frequent them.) I have never been drunk or ever wanted to get drunk. I only recently had my first tastes of wine in July 2008. (My first sort of boyfriend was an alcoholic, and I never have liked what I saw and heard drunk people do and say.)
An ideal Silverdaddy for me would be the actor Nigel Hawthorne from "The Object of My Affection" (and other films). He's very handsome, intelligent, clean cut, and has that lovely British accent. There's something that turns me on about being seduced by an older man.
Two of his lines from "The Object of My Affection" that I really liked were:
"Contrary to the stereotype, I'm an awful cook." (True for me, too!)
and
"Don't fix your life so you're left alone right when you come to the middle of it." (Well, I hope at 33 that I am not quite at the middle of my life, but I'm not getting any younger.)
Another great GLBT movie is "Food of Love" - about a young guy (who seems pretty much asexual) and who is a page-turner for a pianist, until that middle-aged gay pianist makes the moves on the younger guy, who is not expecting it and surprised by it all. Excellent film!
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Dec. 11, 2007 update - I won my bid on my Yellowstone National Park apartment in Mammoth Hot Springs, so I am here to stay for awhile. Yay!
IMPORTANT - If anyone reading this is interested in living and working at Yellowstone or any other national park, let me know, as I have some good advice and suggestions as to how to make your application stand out and perhaps get hired.
Also, I recently have seen one of the funniest and best gay movies ever. It's called Another Gay Movie. It's a MUST SEE! So outrageously funny!
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July 19 update - added a few more things...
I accepted a job at Yellowstone National Park and will be moving there at the end of August/early September.
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July 6, 2007 update - I haven't updated parts of my profile for a while, so I added some things to make it even more complete and thorough (and long). Let me know if I need to add anything...
Kevin
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May 26, 2007 update: just moved to the Flagstaff, AZ area - wondering what the area has to offer in terms of GLBT social activities and groups
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I am seeking gay companions/friends/partner(s) with whom I can share my life, interests, and passions. I am open to all adult ages, singles or couples. I've found that older gay men do not play the games that younger ones do, and older men appreciate what I have to offer, which is affection, honesty, companionship, loyalty, generosity, and really good massages. I give sensual fingertip/fingernail massages. One guy said I have "magic" hands and "magic" fingers and that my massage put him in a state of "euphoria." Another guy said he loved my massages so much he wanted to lock me in his apartment so I would give him daily massages. Another guy said my massages left him in a state of "ecstasy!!!!" If you are traveling to Yellowstone, let me know, as I can have overnight guests.
Anyone know any good massage therapists in Bozeman, MT? I am looking for someone who does VERY/EXTREMELY deep tissue and trigger point massage. I'm open to rolfing as well.
I am seeking intelligent, mature, professional, honest, caring, generous, loving, respectful, loyal, ethical, health-conscious, and responsible individuals for friendship and/or serious long-term relationship. If the guy is a licensed/certified massage therapist or otherwise very talented at deep tissue and/or trigger-point massage, then I'll melt in his arms!
I love guys with accents, especially Australian, New Zealand and Indian/South Asian.
About me: I'm 32 years old, 100% gay, and recently graduated from law school, although I do not want to be a lawyer. I graduated from law school in May 2004 and am looking for a good job that I'll like, legal or non-legal, and that will utilize my knowledge, skills, and abilities. My focus in law school was in environmental and natural resources law. I also took a course in gay civil rights law. I'm slowly but surely paying off my student loans. Thank goodness I'm so frugal/thrifty! I'm able to save up money and pay down my debt bec. of my personal low cost of living.
For the last 2 years, I have been a park ranger. I've worked in 3 different national parks/monuments - Crater Lake National Park, Mount St. Helens National Volcanic Monument, Grand Canyon National Park, and now Yellowstone National Park. I love it! My office has been the beautiful outdoors! I get to meet people from all over the U.S. and world. Now, at Yellowstone, I have an office job. I'm ready for a break from visitors, but I hope to ve a Park Ranger again someday.
I have 2 Bachelor of Science degrees - Botany and Environmental Biology. I love plants and animals, science and nature.
I'm fairly mobile and very employable, so if you know of a good job for me, I'd love to hear about it. I love my job, but I can see myself working in many fields - politics/gay rights, gay retirement facilities, outdoor/nature/park jobs, etc.
I LOVE tennis and the outdoors, which is why I need to move to a drier and sunnier climate than rainy Eugene, Oregon, where I went to law school for 3 years and lived there awhile longer after I graduated. I coordinated a gay tennis group for over 4 years. I also LOVE gay movies, and I started and coordinated a gay movie night group for over 3 years. I have a HUGE gay movie library. I love watching GLBT movies. Some of my favorite films include: Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert; But I'm a Cheerleader; Camp, Making Love; Maurice; The Birdcage; To Wong Foo, Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar; In & Out; Parting Glances; The Object of My Affection, and many more.
I really liked the late and great actor Nigel Hawthorne. Very handsome older man. I really felt sorry for his character Rodney in The Object of My Affection, as his younger love-interest (Paul) wasn't interested in Rodney.
I love comedies. My favorite sitcom is Golden Girls. I like music, hiking, and photography. I LOVE computers and the Internet, and I enjoy showing others how wonderful computers and the Internet are. I am really impressed by and attracted to guys who know their way around and inside a computer. I know a little about computers and am amazed at those who know much more. If you are a computer geek, send me a note. I would love to pick your brain on a few laptop computer things.
Music I like includes oldies (50s, 60s, 70s), disco, classic rock, pop music, and easy listening/romantic.
Another thing that makes me stand out is that I have a 670-specimen insect collection. Gorgeous preserved insects like butterflies, moths, beetles, etc. I collected most of them as roadkill, as I didn't want to kill them.
I am very serious and mature for my age, so I don't play games. I am intelligent and independent.
I am very health conscious, and I do not smoke, drink, do any drugs, or "party." I am HIV negative and STD free and plan to keep it that way. I am very allergic to cigarette smoke, so I simply cannot have a relationship with a smoker. I also am allergic to cats, although I love them and all animals (well, almost all animals) dearly. I love dogs, especially those that don't shed a lot of hair. I am very clean and take care of my body. I dislike being in a house with lots of dog/cat hair on the couches/carpet/bedding etc. The hair transfers to my clothes, and I have to dehair my clothes and wash them when I get home. Just a pet peeve of mine...
I don't cook. I heat food in the microwave or oven or toaster. Simple living with quick but healthy food. My time is precious to me, and I don't want to spend it standing over a stove and preparing time-consuming meals. I do enjoy a well-prepared home-made meal from time to time, or going out for a nice dinner.
The two best feelings in the world and two of my favorite things are: 1. long, hot showers (with that special someone) and 2. sleeping in. Nothing like getting all clean in a hot shower and resting the body to have energy to enjoy life to the fullest. I am NOT a morning person. I am a night-owl.
Another of the best feelings in the world is a nice, long, deep massage. I have been told by past massage therapists that I should tell prospective new massage therapists that I like very/extremely deep tissue massage. I mainly have my upper back/shoulderblades/neck worked on. I am curious to try rolfing, which is very deep tissue massage. Anyone out there a rolfer or have any rolfer recommendations?
I'm a progressive/liberal (on most but not on all issues), so I'm pretty disillusioned in these days (I mean years!) of W. I like following politics/public policy/government and staying informed on the issues. I'm a news and politics junkie. Go Obama!
I've notived that so many single gay men are living alone. We should try to live together and help each other out more, be more friendly and social with each other. We should be pooling our money, saving our money and contributing some money to charitable causes such as equal civil rights for gay people.
I used to live in Eugene, Oregon, but it rains too much there and there are too many cloudy days, so I am looking to move to somewhere warmer, sunnier, and drier, but with some greenery and hills/mountains nearby for scenery and recreation - so, hot, low, dry, dead, sandy deserts don't interest me and are absolutely out of the question (i.e. Phoenix, Tucson, Las Vegas). High deserts towns like Flagstaff, AZ or Bend, OR are ideal. I want to move to and live in central, southern, or eastern Oregon or Washington or somewhere in California, and maybe even Montana or Wyoming or Colorado or Reno and Carson City, NV or northern AZ (Flagstaff) or NM (Taos, Santa Fe, Albuquerque) and maybe Utah. Someone from Canada recommended Kelowna, BC as a place I should consider. I'd love to live and work in national parks like Banff and Jasper, too. In central Oregon, living in Bend, Redmond, Sunriver, or Sisters would be nice. In Washington, Spokane or Yakima or other central or eastern WA towns (not Seattle, Tacoma, Vancouver, or other rainy, cloudy wet, western WA cities). In southern Oregon, Medford or Ashland are possibilities (not Portland, Salem, or Eugene or other rainy, cloudy wet, western OR/Willamette Valley cities). In California, I'd prefer northern California cities, such as Redding, Sacramento, Santa Rosa, Napa, Sonoma, etc. I also might like the central coast area - Monterey, Salinas, Paso Robles, San Luis Obispo, and Santa Barbara. I visited Santa Cruz and LOVED it!! I've never been to the Sierra Nevada area of California, so maybe I'd like it there, too - Tahoe, Grass Valley, etc. Not been to Montana or Wyoming or Colorado or Nevada or New Mexico or Utah much, so I'm open to suggestions in these states. I don't want to live in any state East of the Rockies - too much humidity, too flat, etc. for me. Plus, I'm a Park Ranger, and most of the parks I would like to work at are out West.
Other possibilities include Australia or New Zealand, although I've never been to these places but have heard they are very nice. Sorry, Floridians, I don't do humidity or hurricanes.
I grew up in Illinois and disliked the hot, humid summers and bitter cold winters, although global warming seems to be making winters warmer there I hear. I also dislike the conservative politics and the Bible-thumping in much of the state. I'm out West to stay, so I'll not be returning to the Midwest.
So, if you already (or soon will) live in my preferred areas and are interested, please let me know. Or, if you have suggestions of the perfect place for me to live, please let me know. I'm young and not well-traveled, so I'd like to hear from folks who have visited or lived in places that they think I'd like.
I love working and living in national parks and will likely make this my life-long career, as the perks are so special and priceless to me - low cost, lots of open space, fresh air, clean water,
intelligent and conscientious people (usually), little to no traffic, laidback/low-stress pace, and no crime
Cities are usually: too expensive, too crowded, too much pollution, too many smokers, too many
superficial ppl into their looks, too much traffic, no place to park, too fast-paced, too much crime, etc.
Here is a list of characteristics that I'm looking for in a city that I'd move to/live in:
I want a city
1. with good weather (not nearly as much rain as Eugene (40-50 inches/year) (half as much rain would be OK) - with a warm/hot summer (but not go over 90 very often) - that did not get too cold/not go below 30 degrees in winter very often. I like warm, sunny days (70-80) and cool, crisp nights (40-50 degrees). I truly value my sleep and love waking up totally refreshed and ready to start the day, and sleep well I really do need to sleep in cool, crisp, dry (non-humid) temperatures in the 40s or 50s. That may sound cold to some people, but that's perfect for me. One can dress for the cold, but not the heat. Plus, there are ways to keep one another warm on a cool night. :) Hopefully, if summer temperatures are warm/hot, one has modern conveniences/necessities (not luxuries) of air conditioning so one can be comfortable in one's own home. I'm not one for primitive living or roughing it, even though I am a Park Ranger. Air conditioners and swamp/evaporative coolers were invented for a reason, so let's use them. If it's too warm (above 60 degrees) at night, I have a hard time sleeping, and I wake up tired, grumpy, and irritable. I don't like that. I don't like tossing and turning all night bec. I can't sleep bec. it's too hot. Sleeping in a room with a ceiling or other fan, A/C, or other cooler to circulate cold air is ideal.
It's the peak of summer now, and I have had trouble sleeping bec. of how hot it is. My swamp/evaporative cooler isn't cooling my bedroom down enough for me. The window A/C unit I had cycled on and off all night - 1 minute on, 5 minutes off, 1 minute on, and so on - so I took it back to Home Depot and got a Master Kool indoor evaporative cooler that worked well for a month, until it got really hot outside and then the monsoon rain started, making it humid. I'm at a loss as to how I can maximize the cooling in my room so I can actually have a good night's sleep, something I haven't had for weeks. Any suggestions/recommendations?
I want a city with many sunny days and few days of clouds or fog. I want a city where one can open one's windows for several months a year for fresh, clean air. Weather.com has average high and low monthly temperatures, as well as average monthly precipitation for cities. I know some cities will get too warm or too cold for my preferences, but that factor alone will not disqualify a city from consideration if there are other benefits to that city;
2. with an active GLBT population and GLBT social groups/organizations;
3. with pretty scenery (trees/forest/hills/mountains nearby/in the distance) and open spaces - I do not want a desert or blowing sand or barren hills/mountains with no greenery on them. I don't want a city that is all concrete buildings. I want parks and green space. I'm not an ocean fan, so being on the ocean that doesn't necessarily attract me to a coastal city, but I won't rule out living in a coastal city. I just won't be doing much out in the water;
4. that is not too big (over 200,000 or so) or too small (under 75,000 or so); and, related to size, I don't want a city with major traffic/congestion problems, like Los Angeles and elsewhere. Again, these population numbers are preferences, not absolute requirements. If cities have good things to offer that offset being too big or too small, I'd consider those cities. As a Park Ranger, I've lived and worked in some fairly remote areas far away from civilization. That was great! Once a month, I'd drive a couple hours or more to town to stock up on groceries. I like rural/country living, as long as grocery stores are at least a 2 or 3 hour's drive away.
5. that has liberal, open-minded, gay-friendly, nice, and fairly laid-back people. I don't want an always rushed/fast-paced city with lots of busy cell phones ringing and speeding cars honking or weaving in and out of lanes;
6. that is not too expensive to live in (cost of living: housing, food, transportation, etc.);
7. with good air and water quality (no smog). Bec. I enjoy being clean and taking showers (I take 2 a day), I like naturally soft water, not hard, mineral-rich water. Soft water makes my hair shine and makes my skin feel soft and clean. Hard water dries my skin out and makes it crusty/flaky and I don't feel clean and refreshed;
8. that has a good job market;
9. that does not a lot of violent crime and that is relatively safe; and
10. that preferably is a college/university town or near one.
(I think that's all. Did I miss anything?)
11. Oh yeah, the city must have a Costco in it (or nearby) so I can eat those yummy muffins!! :)
Costco's website lists all the cities with stores.
http://www.costco.com/Warehouse/Locator.aspx
I think that covers the basics. If you need any more info., feel free to contact me.
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